Karma and Consequence

I hope I have heard this story for the last time. It really gets under my skin
 http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/-bully-punished-with-bad-clothing--unusual-yes--but-cruel--191002928.html 
 when an adult thinks that 'whats good for the goose" mentality is how to correct a wrong path of a child. It is like biting the baby that bites, or pulling hair of the girl who pulls hair. It doesn't really work; It doesn't change the heart and mind. This girl made fun of what another kid wore so the parents (fearing they will be labeled as raisers of a bully in my opinion) exact the unacceptable behavior as punishment. Even with the well thought out plans of morals and values being instilled, it is common error.
Every one is different and each of us has the one sole responsibility for the entirety of our lives to take responsibility for our actions. It seems that consequences and choices are foreign to the offspring of the children of yesterday.
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Parents understand that each child is different and as the stewards, guardians, growers of children we are responsible for 'how they turn out' to some degree. The fact is that we are all people and children are just little people who too were born with that in-alienable right of choice. 

I had a daughter that was so sensitive and pure in heart when she was a child. As a person does, at times she would behave in a way that made other children perhaps jealous, or hurt in some way. A gentle undertaking that was for the fact that she desired to be kind. If she realized, or saw something she did not like about herself, she would choose to change it, or not. This was empowering for her. Once her mind was set with awareness on her moral or ethical standing on a subject she gained confidence in herself. She knew who she was then and will probably not forget anytime soon.


Train your children in the way they should go. Aware and sober minded. Able to make decisions. Respect their decisions and they will learn to seek your counsel and make decisions that you can respect. That is the reward of parenthood. 

I have a son who would ask 'what if why?' when facing a rule he wanted to break. His zest for life and adventuresome spirit got him in some tight places facing odds he was determined to break. Not every child is an angel. Not every child is a free spirit. Parenting is sure a balancing act. Lead your children with sober mindfulness. Talk to them about how to choose their values and beliefs. 

Kaylee, I'm with you sweetie. I trust you to pick your own friends and to stay away from anyone you think will bring you down for what ever reasoning you have. Forgive your soon to be step-mom. She's just trying to hard. 

LouCDiamond
www.masterlucy.com